How Do You Send A Person To A Psychiatrist?

I know a person who needs help. He needs a doctor’s help. More specifically, he needs a psychiatrist’s help. Several people, including a big circle of his closest friends are aware of this. He has no mental peace, he is always restless and at times loses that modicum of sanity.

I feel bad for him. I want to help. Infact, I know a lot of his friends who would like to help. But, how do we tell him that he should go and see a psychiatrist? I don’t know if his wife understands the magnitude of his problem and I certainly hope that it is not genetic.

From what his friends and acquaintances tell me, he has at least four different problems. Primarily, he suffers from Mythomania and Plutomania, but he also has dominant symptoms of Egomania and Megalomania. I think the latter two are the main reasons for the former two. But hey, none of his friends are doctors and neither am I. So, we rally cannot pinpoint the problem.

Again, the basic question is – who will bell the cat? How do you tell a person that he needs to go to a psychiatrist, so that he and his family can live happily without any worries and tensions? I really feel bad for him.

Any ideas or suggestions? 

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11 Comments on “How Do You Send A Person To A Psychiatrist?”

  1. Sushma Says:

    Send him a link to this post. If he understands that he is the one being talked about, he probably doesn’t need help… OTOH if he doesn’t understand and has any of the probable conditions, he’ll be tempted to offer a solution and you could use the solution!!!

  2. rads Says:

    Do you know anyone in the doc business? Friends enough to confide in? They are usually open to listening and suggesting ways on how to deal with denial and such conditions. Perhaps they could refer you to a colleague who specialises in psychiatry.
    I do have a friend who practiceshere in the DC area – desi – if you like, I can check if she knows anyone in your area.

    If not, do an intervention. It may or may not work, but it’s worth a shot. It’s hard, but if you feel strong enough, you should make an effort.

  3. BPuriSKabab Says:

    DStud – I am familiar with egomania and megalomania, but had to look up the other two.

    “He has no mental peace, he is always restless and at times loses that modicum of sanity.” – that kind of describes the condition of half of humanity. [I am not being facetious]

    What is so abnormal in his behavior that you think needs professional help? How is it harming him – physically, socially, psychologically? How is it harming his family?


  4. One close friend needs to stand for this person. Feeling bad is not the solution. A friend must get an appointment with a good doctor and then invite this person over there to the doctor. There is nothing that shud be hidden from him, since this is a matter of his life.

    A real friend straight away tells him to see a doctor, will not think twice before telling him this. There is no good if a friend notices and keeps quiet. Even if that person thinks bad of you, its ok, you’ll have a contentment of ‘helping him help himself’. This is better rite?

  5. Suresh Says:

    The only way he can be cured is when he stops eating…..
    Ragi Balls……………

  6. Aram Says:

    De Stud:

    Many of your posts contain sublte humor, and many are posers and puzzles. I wonder if this too is one such.

    Reading Suresh’s comment about the perceived victim of the quadruple manias needing to give up ragi balls, and looking at the nature of manias ( yes, like our good friend Bhel said, I too had to look up the first 2), is the person you refer one of our eminent(ly) notorious Goudas?

    Your post also merely states that even the wife may not have an understanding of the magnitude of the problem. In other words, she is quite comfortable with her other half’s so called manias.

    If it is some one else, ( I almost corrected myself here and ensured that I used some one ) then these manias are present in a million maniacs almost all of whom are enjoying life in their own way and the sufferers are the ones like us who see them and write about them.

    Most manias, as we know well, are genetic or congenital but certainly not acquired. Which means, there is little chance of a successful permanent cure.

    So, amongst the millions suffering/enjoying precisely from these manias, why do you want to single out one ( that too some one who is not a friend and for whom you owe no obligation) ?

    There are two medical specialities with two very attractive features — no medical emergencies/no late night calls, and secondly patients rarely get cured thus ensuring perennial assured income for the doctors.

    One is dermatology and the second one is psychiatry.

    At the most, the symptoms can be kept in reasonable control but rarely cured permanently.


  7. Yendkudka Says:

    Hey, how can you say that sending a person to a psychiatrist is good, unless really warranted?

    I have seen two such professionals who are themselves psychos – and one of them was a big shot at one of their professional bodies in the State. In spite of having a beautiful, lively wife who was also a professor of medicine, he had an long term affair with his own subordinate clinical psychologist, a lady of the true faith. All the 3 working under the same roof. Husband and wife not on talking terms yet continuing semblance of normalcy for the sake of the kids. A big tax evader too!

    The other psycho, who like the first one was also a good friend, used to tell me about his rival in the same city who had done some black magic so that the psycho’s practice suffered. This one finally left the city to join some little known medical college.

    I also suspect that a third well-known psycho commissions ghost writers so that he can establish himself as a good writer in the Kannada literary circles.

    I have a simple explanation for why these “professionals” finally end up bonkers themselves. It is like the doctors of medicine getting infected through their patients. Listening to the many stories of the mentally challenged affects them adversely.

  8. neelanjana Says:

    Could even be a case of somthing more serious like bipolar disorder – I think the maniac episodes far outnumber the depression episodes to begin with, bu ultimately they will start too.

    Hope someone, anyone takes him to a psychiatrist before things get worse. Immediate evaluation, and continuous monitoring are crucial, as far as I have heard.


  9. krupa Says:

    The best way is to probably give him the link to this post.
    If you know any psychiatrist, you could invite your friend and the psychiatrist to your house for evening snacks and let them talk it out.

  10. praneshachar Says:

    friends who feel he needs the advise of psychiatrist are the best one to talk to him
    and explain the need for the same. after observing if u fail in this you are doing harm to the family. one of the close friends who is very close and whose advise he will take please do it. u can also speak to the wife of him through ur circle and explain and take her along with u to doctor. earlier the better. please do it fast. a friend in need is a friend in deed.
    we wish he will recover fast thro ur help and be back to normal. take care and act fast
    before it is too late.

  11. @ Sushma:
    Thanks for stopping by. Yes, that was the reason I published this post.

    @ rads:
    Thank you. But, the ‘patient’ is not here. The post is certainly an intervention.

    @ BS:
    He is going down the drain – physically, socially and psychologically. And, he is trying hard to drag others too, and is failing miserably.

    @ Srik:
    What if it is not a ‘friend’?

    @ Suresh:
    Am laughing so loud here. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. A truly appropriate comment here, but I certainly didn’t mean it that way.

    @ Aram / Yendkudka:
    I like your one line description of dermatology and psychiatry. Yes, I ahve ehard about psyciatrists getting nutty, but to be fair, I certainl don’t want to generalize and it’s hard for me to believe that compeltely. I have heard a lot of people say that, though.

    @ neelanjana:
    Very good points. I think bipolar disorder is a very good angle and well maybe the case here.

    @ krupa:
    I don’t have to give the link, he knows. Great minds think alike, huh?

    @ praneshachar:
    From what I know, people have been trying. I will try my best too, to make sure he recovers and leads a happy and peaceful life.

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